How to Talk About Incontinence

Incontinence is a sensitive subject. Not many people want to discuss it. But it happens to so many people and affects all aspects of life. When a loved one is experiencing incontinence, it is something you need to talk about – whether you want to or not.

It can be a very emotional issue, and it can be complicated to discuss something that can feel very shameful. We are taught from a young age to control our bodily functions, and losing control is a helpless, humiliating feeling. Overall, it is a difficult topic to broach with a loved one.

Tips for talking about incontinence with a loved one:

  • Remember, they can’t help it. They are probably embarrassed. Bring it up in an understanding tone, at a good time of day.
  • If you are not the person who usually helps them with medical appointments, have that person involved as well.
  • Your job is not to fix this issue for them. It is to get them to go see a physician about it, and receive an expert opinion and go from there.
  • Be gentle and kind. Try to bring it up in a casual tone.
  • You can even be indirect and make it seem like a favor to you. You can say something to the effect of, “What do you think about seeing a physician about this? It would make me feel better to know it isn’t a sign of something more serious.”

Your loved one does not have to suffer. They will hopefully be receptive to your conversation and agree to see a physician. It is important to know that incontinence is treatable and there are options available to you. If your loved one is suffering from incontinence, contact us or call our discreet, dedicated Medical Concierge at 800-771-1953 to learn more.

About The Incontinence Institute

At the Incontinence Institute, our team of healthcare providers understand the physical and mental trials that accompany living with urinary or bowel incontinence. Because of this, we are sensitive to your situation and treat all of our patients with the utmost respect and concern for discretion.


Individual incontinence conditions, treatment and recovery times may vary. Each patient's experience with incontinence procedures and / or surgery will differ. All surgical procedures involve some level of risk. If directed to pursue surgery by your physician, prompt action is advised, as waiting may reduce the efficacy of surgical treatment. The opinions expressed in patient testimonials are by patients only; they are not qualified medical professionals. These opinions should not be relied upon as, or in place of, the medical advice of a licensed doctor, etc.

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